Child abuse is one of the most negative life events one can ever go through. The mental scarring child abuse leaves behind may take effect in various dangerous ways if the victim is unable to overcome the events.
Child abuse obviously creates depressing effects and it is very essential that we take proper steps to avoid such situations from occurring at all. Parental support and even support from close friends and spouse during adulthood is most important for an individual to come out of child abuse scars.
Excessive guilt without reason, withdrawal and low self esteem are some of the very bad effects of child abuse. Child abusers are mentally sick and pervert people who take advantage of the vulnerability of little children and abuse them either physically, mentally or sexually.
Usual Negative Effects Of Child Abuse
Children are very vulnerable both mentally and physically as they are immature in every way. Anybody can take advantage of their innocence by leading them into actions and situations which they may not be willing to do. Children can be scared or influenced easily and child abusers are mentally sick people who find pleasure in taking advantage of such innocent beings.
However, the abused child is in no position to understand that it isn’t his or her fault and therefore develops fear, shame and guilt which gradually erodes or hampers the development of self-esteem and confidence. The worst situation happens if a family member is continuously abusing the child giving rise to helplessness, despair and fright.
Adults who have been abused in their childhood often display such symptoms as depression, guilt, lack of trust, sexual inhibition, nightmares, self-hatred, suicidal thoughts, pessimism, flash backs and so on.
How To Overcome Child Abuse
For children who have been abused or are vulnerable to be abused it is the duty and responsibility of parents and other adults like teachers, relatives and older siblings to be vigilant upon the small kids. Children must be made aware in gentle and simple ways regarding which people and actions to avoid. They must be assured that responsible adults are around them and therefore they shouldn’t feel sacred for anything.
Whenever someone tries to do something to them which they may find unusual should be immediately reported to the elders. Kids who have or are still going through abuse may not report to the elders. But elders must be intelligent enough to understand the signs the kids show through their tensed and fearful dispositions. Elders must investigate and find out the cause and if a child abuse case is found it should be immediately reported to the police.
Parents and elders must give only love, support and care to the abused children. They should deal with the kid gently enough and assure them that whatever happened was bad but the kid is in no way responsible and therefore shouldn’t feel guilty or scared. Make the kid involved in joyful activities and also provide much encouragement to rebuild self esteem and confidence.
For adults it is essential for you to understand that it is your life and whatever had happened was in the past. You should stop blaming yourself and feel proud that you could move ahead in life in a successful manner.
If you want you may join support groups and also go for therapy sessions which will help you immensely to overcome child abuse nightmares. Love yourself and however difficult it might seem try to forgive and forget the past. If you can do this you will prove to be a winner and become an inspiring example for many victims like you.