Every human, when confronted with a situation of loss, grief, stress and so on, experiences anger. It is an instinctive reaction to the feeling of being threatened, misjudged, mortified, rejected or hurt. Though adults can repress and/or control their anger, children, in particular, have less or no control over their anger.
Children are often unable to channelize such strong emotions of anger. They lack the skills to release their anger appropriately. However, it is important for children to learn to cope up with and limit anger or else it can fester and explode in ways that may be harmful for the child’s mental and physical well-being.
Parents can help their kids in dealing with anger and can bring about a huge difference in their behaviour. This article suggests ways in which parents can succour their children in dealing with anger and can prevent the development of aggression in them.
How To Control Anger In Children
Be a Role Model
A child learns most by imitating the behaviour and attitude of people around him/her. If you want your child to learn to deal with anger in a constructive manner, you need to model calmness. Whenever you are faced with a frustrating situation that fuels your temper, make sure that you handle it with as much calmness and tact as possible.
For instance, if you are angry at the neighbour for throwing garbage in your area, then simply go out for a walk and once you have cooled down, talk to your neighbour peacefully. Your child is bound to notice and learn from the examples you set.
Make Your Child a Calmer Person
Research suggests that children who grow up in amicable environment are much more balanced. Children who are well-connected and bonded with their parents have a peaceful inner modeling which prevents outburst of anger and frustration.
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On the other hand, children who grow up in an unconnected environment are susceptible to inner turmoil and the feeling of void which is expressed through anger.
Don’t Make the Child Stuff Anger
Teach your child to recognize anger right from the initial years. Simply making your child suppress his/her anger by the use of parental authority or the fear of rebuke is not going to help the case. Give your child the chance to speak out and listen to your child willingly. Be empathetic towards your child and don’t judge him/her. Once the child has told his/her side of the story, present your own opinion.
Lighten up Angry Moments
Teach your kids to take certain things lightly and to “laugh it off”. Tell them to lighten up at some of the mistakes by modelling leniency in front of your uptight child. And last but not the least, practice laughter to dismiss anger. Laughter can work wonders by diffusing anger and preventing upsets from amplifying.
The ways mentioned above can help your child in dealing with anger and finding positive and constructive ways of releasing it. A well-balanced and calm personality is the key to living a happy and stress-free life.
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