Sex During Pregnancy
Sex in pregnancy is perfectly normal. In fact it can bring a new delight with it since contraception is out of the way.
However, if you have previously lost a baby, been treated for infertility, or miscarried, the doctor may tell you to avoid sex when your period would have been due, or generally.
If you have been asked to avoid intercourse, you can always indulge in caressing, stroking etc. Do not feel shy to ask the doctor how long you have to avoid intercourse; since doctors may forget to say when you are past the time you are likely to miscarry. You may be asked to avoid intercourse if you have had an earlier premature labor.
If you are under great strain at work, or if you are worried about the financial responsibility of having a baby, or if you are angry about being pregnant, then you may not desire or enjoy lovemaking.
Some women feel inclined towards sex in pregnancy, while others do not. A woman’s feeling should be respected. When making love certain considerations have to be kept in mind, like the growing abdomen or the increased sensitivity of the breast. Different positions can be experimented with, in accordance with whatever position is comfortable.
Men often fear that during intercourse they may in some way harm the baby. You cannot hurt the baby during intercourse. The baby is protected by the water bag and the water around it. The water acts as a shock absorber to protect the baby from accidental blows or jerks.
The uterus is housed in the bony framework of the pelvic bones, which provide protection. In the mouth, of the womb, called the cervix, is a plug of mucus which seals the womb and prevents infection from entering the womb.
If a women is overly anxious about her pregnancy, and her husband shares his anxiety, they will together make each other more tense. They may be so afraid of sexual arousal that they may not even lovingly touch and feel each other.
A perpetual state of tension is not going to help matters. Stress of any kind is to be avoided in pregnancy. Both partners need to relax. Stroking and massaging will help reduce the tension, do it to each in turns.
