Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids
December 31, 2008
When you want your child to lead a happy and successful life and grow up into a responsible adult, you need to nurture your child’s emotional intelligence. Here are some strategies you can use to develop your child’s emotional intelligence.
Children watch their parents very closely, and most of their character builds around what they see their parents doing. They always look up to their parents to learn how to cope with frustration and anxiety and to learn to express feelings and respond to other people’s feelings. So unless you as parents put up a good show, you cannot possibly help your children in gaining a high degree of emotional intelligence.
The world is full of temptations for children and obviously when a child is tempted for something they will come and ask you to get it for him. On such occasions if you ignore the repeated requests, you are doing your child a big favor, as this will teach him how to deal with disappointment, how they must control their impulse and how to work through without giving in to temptation. If a child gets whatever he wants, he will become stubborn and indifferent to the feelings of other people, so stop spoiling your child by giving him whatever he asks for.
When irritated or frustrated, due to a child’s odd behavior, most parents start using adjectives for their children like idiot, stupid Etc. Now that’s not the kind of behavior a child expects from you, and in fact when you are using such words you’re simply making the wrong additions to his vocabulary. So you must watch out the language that you use in your child’s presence, whether it is when you’re talking to him or whether it is when you’re talking to someone else in his presence.
Another point to mull over is that if you get so unnerved and goaded to do the wrong things and use the wrong words because of your child’s little mistakes how do you expect your child to learn to control his impulse. And well, I hope you do realize that the crux of emotional intelligence is gaining control over ones negative feelings.
To make your kids learn about responsibility, you must start the coaching really early. Get your child involved in the regular household chores and your child will be much happier because he gets a feeling of being valuable and a feeling of belongingness, and these feelings go a long way in making a person successful in life.
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