Is Walking Out Justified?

Looking at today’s scenario, marriages don’t seem as permanent and as everlasting as they used to be, some two or three decades back. It’s not that we’re saying that today’s couples get married only two expect a divorce.

But still, looking at the facts and figures it’s evident that more than one third of the present day marriages end up in divorce.

Strangely, there are some couples who take their vows just under the influence of a temporary whim, and when the fairy tale episode is over they realize of the mistake they have done. At such a time the vow that they had taken to stick by each other through thick and thin, doesn’t hold much meaning, and the only thing they want to do is to part ways.

We’re not saying that all divorces are wrong; because at times the situation and the circumstances may be such that a divorce may be nearly inevitable. For instance, when one of the partners begins physically or emotionally abusing the other partner or when the two of them are unwilling to tolerate each other. On such occasions, you need to leave aside all the religious and societal taboos and go ahead with a divorce to safeguard your interests.

A divorce also seems justified when your partner is cheating on you.  If you’ve got a big heart and you are ready to forgive and forget, well and good, otherwise divorce seems quite a justified reaction. When your spouse cheats on you, you’re filled with feelings of remorse, distrust and betrayal, and these feelings are difficult to overcome unless your spouse takes the initiative to apologize and correct his wrongdoings. But then, if your partner shows least interest in patching up with you then taking a divorce is the only way to get to your life back on track.

Lastly, in most situations both the partners need to be willing to save their marriage and only then can divorce be ruled out. But before you finally sign the divorce papers, do think about the pros and cons and the possible way out to save your marriage.