How To Help Your Child Fight Feelings Of Jealousy

How To Help Your Child Fight Feelings Of Jealousy

How To Help Your Child Fight Feelings Of Jealousy Jealously is one of the most common and normal human emotion. Feelings of happiness, sadness etc. are considered more common than feelings of jealousy. But even jealously stands just as tall as other feelings. The truth is that people try to hide their feelings of jealously.

Some people hide their feelings of jealously fabulously while some others fail to do the same. Most of us have learnt to keep our feelings to ourselves and put a happy face in front of others even if we are not happy. This is because of the simple fact that we have learnt to deal with various people and situations over a period of time.



However, you cannot expect your children to behave the same way. Children also experience feelings of jealously just like adults. A child as young as an year old might cry when its parent is talking to someone else simply to seek attention.

A child seeks attention and makes its presence felt by virtue of jealously. It does not take much to make a child feel jealous. Anything and everything can make children feel jealous. Most common reasons that trigger jealously in children are arrival of a new baby, involvement of the parent in a new relationship, or simply some attention.



Most parents do not pay much heed to feelings of jealously in their children. They consider their feelings of jealously as just another temper tantrum and completely ignore it. But it is very important that they take their children’s feelings of jealously seriously.

Feelings of jealously can make a child all aggressive and stubborn. Growing up with feelings of jealously can also lower the confidence and self-esteem of a child. The child might grow up to become an individual who is jealous and does not trust his/her caliber.

So it is very important that parents identify the signs and symptoms of jealously in children and deal with them to prevent further complications. Here are few things that you should keep in mind to help your child deal with feelings of jealously.



Communicate

Communication is very vital between parent and child. It helps strengthen the parent-child relationship and also helps the parent understand their children better. You can ask your child questions regarding what upsets them. Do not be harsh on them when they are expressing their feelings of hatred or revenge.

Explain to them that such feelings are natural and should be controlled. Also assure that you love them and nothing will change your love for them. Pacify your child but do not over-pamper your child. Communicating with your child will help you convey your message to your child and this will help your child get over feelings of jealously.

Do Not Punish Your Child

Every human being undergoes a series of emotions and it is perfectly normal to feel jealous. So you should not punish your child for feeling jealous. There must have been times when you have felt jealous for some reason or the other. You have learnt to deal with feelings of jealously over a period of time but your child is still in its learning phase.

So instead of punishing your child you should, help your child get over its feelings of jealously. It is perfectly normal for a child to feel jealous, when it has to share its love and attention with his new born sibling or anybody else all of a sudden. So understand your child’s feelings and do the necessary to help your child grow out of its feelings of jealously.

Never Make Comparisons

One of the most common mistakes that parents make unknowingly are comparing their children. Never ever compare your children among themselves or with other children. Parents tend to think that comparing one child with other child will help the former child get motivated by the latter child in terms of studies, competitions etc.

But the truth is that such comparisons tend to make the children develop feelings of hatred and revenge. This can worsen your child’s feelings and it might become increasingly difficult to deal with children. So make sure that avoid making such comparisons and treat your children equally.

Handover Responsibilities To Your Children

Handing over responsibilities to your children helps a great deal in controlling their feelings of jealously. You can handover some responsibilities to your older child and request him/her to help you take care of your younger children. This will induce a sense of responsibility in your older child. This sense of responsibility will not only make him/her overcome jealously but also motivate him/her to take care of the younger sibling.

You should also take adequate care about the fact that, your younger child does not start feeling ignored and rejected. Your younger child might feel that he/she does not have as much freedom as his/her older sibling. In such cases your should explain to your younger child that he/she will get the same freedom when they are older.

Set Rules

As important it is to love and pamper your child, also make sure that you set certain rules and limitations. If either of your child is throwing tantrums which have started to become intolerable, then you should set certain guidelines and rules.

Your children must know their limits and should think twice before even thinking of crossing their limits. Ensure that your child understands the fact that their tantrums will not be entertained every time. This rule should be set for all your children without any sort of partiality.

Spend Quality Time Together

In today’s modern and fast paced life, parents have become very busy and hardly find time for their family. But moments of togetherness, as a whole family plays a very vital role in the overall development of the child. Spent evenings together and let your children go out and play.

Go for outings on weekends and let your children spend good times with each other. Spending more and more time with each other eliminates feelings of jealously between siblings and strengthens bond between them.

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