How to Handle Kids during Divorce

A divorce is an unfortunate event, in anyone’s life, but it turns even more painful when there is a kid involved.

Children are the worst affected in case of a divorce.A child needs both parents to be together, for having a healthy and pleasant growing experience.

With the divorce of parents, the child feels angry, stressed and confused about how future life is going to be for them. Most kids, after the divorce of their parents, get into problems like drug abuse, teen pregnancy and such other anti-social activities.

Hence, it’s the duty of both the parents to offer security and stability to the child, to help him / her grow healthy both emotionally and physically.The child must feel that even though his / her parents have separated due to differences in their opinions, they’re still there to support and take care of him / her.

Keep the child informed

A child has full rights to know why his parents are separating, unless it’s something that’s not fit for a child of his age to know. It’s your duty to sit down with the child and have a one-to-one talk about why you have taken this decision.Also, give the child some idea about the possible changes that will occur in everyone’s, especially his / her, life after the separation.

Be prepared to answer tough questions and don’t lose your temper when listening to the child’s questions and explaining him / her things.Let your child know that you still care for him and love him. A simple “I love you” can convey a lot to the child. Avoid blaming your partner for whatever happened.

Be receptive to the child’s feelings

Listen to the child and his feelings and acknowledge them.

Show the child that you care for him / her and your outlook towards him / her hasn’t changed.Reassurance is something that the child will need a lot in such a situation. You have to be patient.

Make sure that the child’s studies, his medical needs and his financial needs are taken care of. At the same time you must see that the child follows discipline and behaves well with everyone. If you feel frustrated and angry, don’t show it to the kid. Talk to your friends or some relative, instead. A hug, a gentle pat on the shoulder or a simple kiss on the cheeks are some of the powerful ways to assure your child of your love.

Sidharth Thakur