Children are known to be their parents’ pride and joy but they can be an embarrassment sometimes depending on their behavior. All parents know what it is like when a child suddenly begins to have a temper tantrum. He may do so even in unfamiliar surroundings or outside the home. In such instances, the parents end up feeling embarrassed. These are times when the parents are in a fix as it is difficult and improper to discipline their child in public.
What Not To Do In Such Situations
When you are faced with such a situation, the way you respond will determine whether or not the child will calm down or will even act out worse. Never walk away from the child as this may agitate him even further. Beating the child as you push him out of that area will not help improve the situation as the people around that area may begin to crowd around and even scold you, resulting in an exchange of words.
Some parents may decide to give in to the child’s demand in order to defuse the situation; however, this is very wrong as it sends a message to the child that each time he wants something, he only has to act out in order to have his way. Scolding the child there and then will also aggravate the situation instead of diffusing it. You will only feel angrier with your child and even yourself as you will feel that you are incapable of controlling the situation and your child.
What To Do
No matter how unruly your child becomes, it is necessary for you to keep your cool and not listen to what other people say to you on how you should take care of the situation. Take the child to a secluded area and calmly inform him that he may have to remain there until he behaves properly. If it is at home that your child throws a tantrum, this is the time out session where he must reflect on his unacceptable behavior quietly alone until he is ready to behave better.
When your child begins to throw words at you especially during time-out, you should keep calm to prevent any further exchange. When your child is quiet, you can talk gently with him face to face to help him understand that his behavior was disrespectful and unacceptable. Teach him the right words to use and help him to express himself better which may be the root cause of the bad behavior.
When the child has calmed down, always make him sit down and talk with him to find out why he was acting out and advice him on how he should behave. It is also necessary for you to warn your child that in case of any recurrence, you may have to take away some of his privileges like watching TV or playing with his favorite toys.
It is important for parents to stand their ground each time their children act out and not give in to their demands as these only shows the child that they are in control and will never take you seriously when you try to reprimand them.