When things have turned awkward following a breakup and your life seems going out of control, you need to make a lot of effort to heal your life.
To get started, you must clear the leftovers of the dead relationship. By leftovers we mean all memories that remind you of your ex and the by gone relationship. It’s hard, but it’s the right way to begin clearing up the mess. There may be lots of photos, gifts and other such memorabilia that you need to get rid off.
And the sooner you clear up all the traces that remind you of your ex, the better it is. You must destroy all the gifts and letters that your ex gave you. If you can’t think about burning or destroying his gifts, donate them to a charity, the whole idea is to get these things out of your sight and out of your home.
When you are done with the cleaning, it is time to try and pull the strings of life together. Largely, the tendency after a breakup is to hide away into a shell and wail over the recent episodes. But this is neither practical nor healthy, so stop grieving and get on with some activities.
Being involved in activities will keep your mind off your ex and your breakup, while diverting your mind onto something creative and constructive. Get going with some sport, some new hobby or some project. It will divert your attention and won’t leave you with much of idle time to sit and stare at the walls and feel sorry for yourself.
Another important thing to do is to avoid staying lonely, because the more you stay lonely the more your mind will wander over your ex and the breakup. Spend time with friends, family and office peers, to fill in the gap that the breakup has created in your life.
And lastly remember that once you are out of a bad relationship, you are as free as a bird and you must take advantage of this freedom to explore new dimensions, which you could not explore earlier. Go ahead and indulge in something that has always tempted you, but which you have not been able to try.