Disciplining Your Child – Strategies For Saying ‘No’

Children always have their way of getting what they want, especially if your weakness happens to be their puppy eyes. You just cannot deny to something like that. But if you keep giving in every time, you might just end up spoiling your child.

There are ways you can escape those puppy eyes, and stay firm on your decision. First off, to make your ‘no’ more effective and make sure they stick to your decision, you need to explain them why your are saying it. A good reason that your child can agree with will instantly have them submit to you.

You should get down to their level and explain to them why you are denying their request. Once they find your reasoning to be right, they will quit immediately and sometimes forever. Don’t say ‘no’ all the time. Maintain a good balance between the times you say no and the times you agree to your child’s wants. This will ensure them that you are being fair.

Turn your ‘no’ into something that sounds positive. Include a condition that goes along with a ‘yes’ which will easily mask a cruel ‘no’ letting your child know that you are not entirely being unfair and giving them a chance to do whatever they want. Like, you can tell them to go play after they are done with homework or eat that ice cream that’s stored in the fridge after they are done with the dinner. This way, you still remain strict without seeming too heartless and negative all the time.

It’s hard to have them listen to your ‘No’ when they are on their temper tantrum. During these times, speak out with a firm voice which shows that you are not going to change your mind and that your command is final. Once they realize the firmness of your decision in your voice, they give in. If you feel bad about this, you can reward them later by making their favorite dish for dinner or something similar to that.

Give them other options that are positive and safer to choose from. This will let them know that you are not being entirely unfair regarding the decision and are giving them a substitute. This trick usually works with children between age 2-3.